This past week has been one of the more intense ones in my life, and Goddess knows I’ve experienced some intense ones. Who hasn’t? Like that great sexy beast Jim Morrison said, “Nobody gets out of here alive”. And nobody gets to live a rich, full, succulent life without getting put through the ol’ wringer. A couple of times or thousands. It hardens us and softens us at the same time. It makes us release who we thought we were and allow who we truly are to unfold.
But it’s haaaaarrrrrrrdddddd.
I feel like I’ve visited this place on my spiral of Life enough times to know now, that this too, shall pass. In the middle of it, it feels like, “Oh no, it won’t!” but it does. It will. It always does. It’s a matter of holding our seat, not losing our sh*t. AND…finding solace in those places, practices, and people who hold us while we navigate the inner, often rocky, landscapes of the mind.
It takes a great deal of courage, of patience, of bravery, to move through these really hard times. If you’re going through a hard time right now, I want you to know, you ARE courageous, patient and brave. And the thing about those capacities is we don’t feel all that courageous, patient and brave while we’re BEING those things. It’s only when you come out the other side (and you absolutely will) that you may recognize – – and give yourself credit for – – navigating the journey in a way that enables you to see how beautiful you truly are. Eventually, I trust, you will be able to acknowledge all the good within yourself. You don’t need courage, patience and bravery to get through these rough spots. You already have them. You have to find them, in the moment, while you’re right in it.
You lack nothing for this journey. Nothing.
You have what you need already, you just may not be seeing it.
You know, this world we’re in…man, it makes you believe it’s not okay to be proud of yourself, of your accomplishments. That is SUCH a disservice to humanity. This thought pattern out there, that you shouldn’t brag, you’re not a good person if you think highly of yourself…such B.S. We ought to acknowledge that thought pattern for what it is and decide differently. Decide that it is not only okay to look back at what you’ve accomplished, the goals you HAVE reached, the goodness you DID contribute to the world, the courage, patience and bravery you DID demonstrate on your previous challenging episode, but it is IMPERATIVE to the evolution of humanity that we FEEL GOOD about ourselves and our accomplishments. With humility, of course, but feel good about it at least for the ability to remember you’ve been through a similar tough time before, you sharpened your skills, you got this, you can do this.
It breaks my heart when people give up. I get that it’s an option and obviously the only one they can see at the time. Not giving up takes tremendous courage. Overcoming (fill in the blank) takes tremendous courage.
I had a job interview this week. One of the questions was about what barriers could I see in working remotely and how would I handle them. I thought about this before the interview (before even applying, frankly), and I let them know I had already given it some thought. I was not able to identify any specific barriers, but I did share that I have surmounted every obstacle that rises up before me in my life. And I have. That’s not bragging. That’s not even being proud. It was just me letting them know I am no stranger to obstacles. I got this and anything else Life wants to throw at me. I know, without a doubt, I can handle whatever arises. Because I always, always do. Maybe not as gracefully as I may want, maybe not as quickly as I may want, but I do. Eventually, energies around a thing shift. And they will for you, too.
Courage, dear ones. Patience. Bravery. You go this, you really do. Don’t forget. You’ve been through stuff before and overcame your obstacles. Big or little, doesn’t matter. Courage, patience and bravery are muscles we develop along the way. Going to the mental gym can suck as much as a physical gym, but it’s what we gotta do from time to time to become stronger.
Whenever we lift weights at the gym, our physical muscles go through a bit of a breaking down process at the cellular level and with rest they come back stronger. Same thing with our inner journey. These episodes that we find so frickin’ challenging (sigh) ARE breaking us down. To make us stronger. To make us more resilient. To make us even more courageous, patient and brave. There is a method to the madness. Hold your seat, but not your breath.
You got this. xo
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